Setting Boundaries in a Relationship
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Why Setting Boundaries in a Relationship is Important and How to Do It
Living in a mutual, respectful, and healthy relationship is everyone’s common goal. Setting boundaries in a relationship allows you to establish what behaviors are and aren’t acceptable in your relationship, which is vital for developing trust, mutual respect, and emotional health.
What is a Boundary?
Boundaries, also known as limits, are the acceptable behaviors we want and need from our partner(s). Boundaries in relationships allow you to feel safe, be heard, and most importantly, feel respected. They should help enhance your connection and allow problem solving to be a collaborative effort.
Why Setting Boundaries is Important
Boundaries establish safety and trust in a relationship — when both partners feel secure and respected, they experience increased emotional wellbeing and connection. Establishing and maintaining personal boundaries is essential as it helps to separate one person from the other and allows both partners to maintain their independence and autonomy. Additionally, honoring your boundaries teaches your partner to respect you and your limits.
How to Set Boundaries in a Relationship
Create clear boundaries by:
- Communicating your limits to your partner. Share what is and isn’t acceptable in your relationship with respect, kindness, and honesty.
- Stating how you want to be treated in the relationship. Everyone within the relationship should be treated with respect, kindness, and patience.
- Learning to say no when asked to do things that make you uncomfortable.
- Setting physical boundaries that both partners agree to and feel comfortable with.
- Prioritizing personal responsibility. Setting boundaries requires each partner to think of themselves (their comfort, needs, and wants) as well as the other person’s. This allows each person to take ownership of their actions and thoughts as well as their feelings.
Health Benefits of Setting Boundaries in a Relationship
Relationships with healthy boundaries provide emotional safety and stability, which is essential for overall physical and psychological health. Setting boundaries encourages individual growth as each person takes responsibility over their own thoughts, feelings and actions. Establishing boundaries also promotes communication, a key part of any successful relationship. Lastly, developing mutual respect is a major benefit of setting boundaries in a relationship; respecting yourself, your partner, and each other’s feelings contributes to the positive mental, emotional and physical aspects of the relationship.
